The way in which we approach conflict – can greatly affect the outcome – whether emotional or physical in action.
Anybody who may suffer from anxiety, depression, traumatic experiences, mental health disorders and or psychosymatic illness- in some way, shape, or form, experience a de-regulated nervous system.
The highway of perception and bodily response to the outside and inner world – is now in a suboptimal state. There is a disconnect between recieving and transmitting appropriate and effecient signals.
These can manifest in many different variations, but in my experience, mostly through extreme anxiety and catastrophization.
Diving away from the clinical aspect of “diagnoses”, if we are able to touch our ego – in a way that gives us a little kick in the butt. Typically the residual anxiety and physical atrriubutes that come alongside that – simmer down.
This is coming from a traumatized, de-regulated, anxious person, so DON’T WORRY, I fucking feel.
When there is an ability to reign in our thoughts, it allows us to be in tune with ourself. A big reason why it is dificult to get there is if we are being honest, being in tune with ourselves isn’t always attractive.
What are we really trying to say ?
Well, mindsets : according to the dictionary is – “an established set of attitudes held by someone.” And the purpose of such is to delegate how one might interperet and respond to situations.
Below are some humbling micro adjustments that may be benificial to incoperate whenever there is an awarness of doomsday thoughts or something of that nature.
This is a practice, so be gracious, and make it work for you.
- “ And so what if “
Typically I always run through hundreds if not the illusion of thousands of TERRIBLE things that will happen to me. Worst Case scenario is my go to. A great friend of mine told me once before a big performance “ and so what if you fail?”. And I went into great detail all of the repercussions of me in the case of if I fail. In that moment he then helped me remember “ and so what?!”. If that’s the worst that was going to happen, come hell or high water – the reality would still be the same, and I would still be alive. None of my options were a threat to my life, perhaps my ego but nothing more than that. I tried adopting that mindset, and it has helped simmer down the piping hot fear of “the worst possible scenario”. So, when I am feeling anxious and I start castastrophizing, I try to remember “ and so what ?”.
2. Mantras
In my moments of dread – which come often. I have decided to rely on mental mantras. One of which “ and I will be okay” , helps me remember that irregardless of what may or may not happen, I myself will be okay, stepping into acceptance *radically*, can help open myself up to the beauty in tuning into the frequency of the solution.
3. Reflecting
As an over-thinker, I find it impossible to not reflect over many of my day to day interactions. But instead of getting lost in non constructive thought, I try to sit with myself and think where did I think things were going wrong, and try to reflect on why my reaction is of an anxious nature. Anxiety tends to be a fear of the future, and depression more so resembling being stuck in the past. We are all trying to learn to step into our peace and unity with the present moment. So my reflection open me up to better understand my own triggers, and wounds I may need to shine some healing light onto.
The Peaceful Path 